Childfree Woman With Demanding Job Upset At Moms For Claiming Monopoly On Tiredness

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Feb 23, 2022 12:00 PM EST

We all have that one friend who just cannot stop 'sneak-bragging' about how overwhelmed they are, how they just barely have enough time to eat or sleep or exercise. Yet it seems as though they really make the time to tell you all of this, literally every single day. And of course, they never ask you about your life and your duties, because they're so cute and little compared to hers. You couldn't possibly understand what it's like to be tired! Why is it always a competition of who is busier? I know this must be making you think of somebody.

Before we get into this aggravating 'Am I The A-hole' post, if you feel pissed off already and want to scream, feel free to let it all out.

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    Rectangle - Posted by u/destinedspoon 6 months ago 4 7 2 N AITA for saying people without kids can also get tired? Not the A-hole
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    Moms do tend to act as if they have reached a new level of exhaustion that is inconceivable to anyone who is yet to procreate. Reddit user u/destinedspoon made a post asking if she was an A-hole for arguing that people without kids can also get tired. I don't think the moms are going to like this.

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    Font - This is probably really stupid. I really don't think I'm the AH here but my friends are split...unsurprisingly pretty evenly along lines of who has kids and who doesn't.
    via u/destinedspoon

    Before getting into it, they recognize that it's not such a controversial statement to argue that people who don't have families can also experience exhaustion. But there are definitely people out there (*cough* *cough* moms) who may have a different opinion. Apparently her friends are split, what's your take?

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    Font - Basically I (34f) have a really demanding job. I work long hours, never really get to turn off, and have a crap contract which means unemployment is always looming. Sometimes I make it to the end of the week and I can barely
    via u/destinedspoon
  • 04
    Plant - make it to the end of the week and I can barely keep my eyes open. There are weeks during busy periods where I barely get to see my partner, let alone my friends. Long story short, sometimes I'm just really, really tired.
    via u/destinedspoon
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    Font - Recently I was hanging out with some friends and mentioned that I was struggling a bit at the moment because it's a particularly busy time at work. I said I was excited for a day off and a lie in because I was bone tired. About 3 of my
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    Font - in because I was bone tired. About 3 of my friends (all mothers of kids under 6) laughed and said I didn't 'understand the meaning of tired' because I don't have children. One of them said a week in my life would be like a
    via u/destinedspoon
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    Font - holiday for them and that I shouldn't complain because childless people have it so easy. They just went on and on, telling me how hard it is to have kids and that when I 'grow up' and have a family I'll realise how stupid I sound.
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    Font - So, I got kinda pissed. I told them they didn't have a monopoly on being tired and that they have no idea what my life is like. I told them if it's so damn hard to have kids maybe they shouldn't have kept having them. I also told
    via u/destinedspoon
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    Font - shouldn't have kept having them. I also told them it was shitty to talk down to people who have made different choices to them. I understood being tired just fine thanks very much, and that having kids is not something that means you deserve a frigging medal.
    via u/destinedspoon
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    Font - It was awkward, people left. One of the mothers messaged me later to say I was unfair and that one day I'd understand and feel bad and that I should apologise. She said she felt I was being
    via u/destinedspoon
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    Smile - unsympathetic to people with kids by 'playing down their experiences'. I told her she was being patronising as hell and to leave me to sleep. All the parents in our group are now texting me telling me I'm in the wrong, but all
    via u/destinedspoon
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    Mammal - texting me telling me I'm in the wrong, but all the childless ones are saying I'm NTA. Am I the asshole for saying I understand what real tiredness feels like even though I don't have kids?
    via u/destinedspoon
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    Art - TLDR: friends with kids think only they have the right to say they know what it feels like to be really tired. I think they're full of sh.t because other stuff is also tiring.
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    Organism - just-peepin-at-u Asshole Aficionado [12] 6 months ago NTA mom here, and while I am tired, as long as people don't talk down to me, I don't talk down to them. Parents don't have a monopoly on exhaustion. It doesn't sound like you were putting down their experiences at first, but just telling your own. It isn't a contest, and they didn't have to play martyr. Yeah, they are tired, probably way more tired than before kids, but they still don't need to put down your own feelings. Not every
    via u/just-peepin-at-u
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    Organism - TurquoiseBlue621 Asshole Enthusiast [5] 6 months ago Ah yes, the suffering olympics. OP, anything you say, they will have it worse. You have a headache? Try having a headache with 3 kids under 6 whining for you. What's that? You need new shoes? Must be nice to be able to buy new shoes for yourself instead of 3 kids.../s
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    Font - passthecakeplease 6 months ago Mom of 3, working from home for 6.5 months and doing virtual school with all 3 kids. And my husband works nights with constant overtime so I'm solo for most of it.I'm always tired. But so are my child-free friends. Parents don't have a monopoly on exhaustion. NTA
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    Font - RealisticVoice8 Partassipant [2] 6 months ago Seriously. I'm a mother (and have a full time job) and the "YOU DONT KNOW EXHAUSTION UNTIL YOU HAVE KIDS" is so annoying to me. And honestly, yeah, having a kid is exhausting, especially if they're bad sleepers. Mine is! But it's not the most exhausted I've ever been in my life. And just because you're exhausted doesn't mean I'm not?
    via u/RealisticVoice8
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    Font - LewneyBin 6 months ago Yeah, mom of two with one on the way here. I had severe insomnia for many years before kids and while I have days now were I am "that" tired my insomnia days often take the cake. It doesn't need to be a competition and you are plenty grown up to understand your body and your limits. NTA
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    Font - Cleromanticon Asshole Enthusiast [5] 6 months ago NTA - I have a serious chronic illness that is incredibly painful at times. You know what I say when people complain to me about having a cold? I don't say, "You don't know what feeling bad is. Having a cold would be a vacation compared to what I go through." I say, "Having a cold sucks. I hope you feel better soon." Because it's not a damn contest.
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